A Radically Queer Gift Guide: Gifts for Masculine Queers
This third installment in the Radically Queer Gift Guide focuses on what to get the trans men, butch women, and otherwise masculine-leaning folks in your life. While this is not my own identity, I’ve found that Etsy is a treasure trove of ideas for trans-masculine folks and so I’ve compiled a few of my favorites here. If there’s a femme trans guy on your list, some of these suggestions might be especially relevant.
I really like “masculine” scents, and this is an area of shopping that many people ignore for the masculine people in their life, so it’s not a bad gift idea. My personal go-to shops in this category are A Breath of French Air for Sophistication Body Butter, Cracklin’ Birch Soap, Stud Lip Balm, and the mustache soaps pictured (as well as awesome Lego and robot soaps “for kids”), Rocky Top Soaps for quality soaps with less of a scent including the winter skin set, bearded man set, mud soap set, and manly man soap set, and Deep South Soap for some unique offerings like a vegan shaving kit, beer soap, and a handmade foot powder.
If one of the folks on your list is into kink and leather, I highly recommend checking out these two shops. Ideologia has really awesome vegan “leather” garters, harnesses, chokers, and bracelets that are perfect for a genderqueer aesthetic (and can look more feminine or masculine depending on what you wear them with). Rand offers a clever leather bracelet that doubles as handcuffs, plus a few dapper leather bowties and suspenders.
Rebirth focuses on gender non-conforming clothes, mostly really amazingly flamboyant unisex undergarments. If you have femme masculine folks on your list, check out their briefs, boyshorts, crop tops, binders, and sports bras. I am a little suspicious of whether some of the binders would work for a larger chested person, given the size of the models, but they are custom made to size based on the measurements you give.
I have a number of different suggestions for really niche geeky ties, if that sounds like the right idea for someone on your list. Mary & Mary’s has a lot of fandom bowties, including plenty of Doctor Who, comics, and Game of Thrones. DP Domesticities also meets your fandom bowtie needs, but also carries science-y and sports themed bowties, plus a selection of amusing aprons. If you’re looking for arty regular ties, I like Tie Story, where you can get Vampira and sea monster ties. But my very favorite store in this category is Cyberoptix. They sell ties and scarves with everything from library due date card print to nerve cells to videogame controllers. I’ve been meaning to buy this pink unicorn tie for about a million years.
This is a very specific recommendation, but I just love cufflinks. If you know a classy out trans person who actually owns a shirt with French Cuffs, this is a great gift. I like the subtlety of the cufflinks, giving you an excuse to say “hey, look, I’m in the club!” if a fellow trans person notices them.
Finally, one more way for the trans person on your list to subtly mark themselves as part of the trans community is this wallet chain from Parma Violet. I think a cis person would be even less likely to pick up on the trans pride colors here than on the symbols on the cufflinks, so this is a fun gift for someone who likes finding community but may not be interested in displaying the word “trans” all over their stuff.